“I can’t explain it — I just knew I was supposed to be their mom.”
Pam tagged her husband, Gary Willis, 53, so he would see the article. The couple, who share five adult children and live in Menifee, California, had been fostering kids for years, but they had never discussed adoption.
“I thought Gary was going to tell me I was wacko — we were getting ready to retire,” Pam admitted. But to Pam’s relief, Gary felt the same exact way she did.
“It was what God wanted us to do,” Pam said.
That night, they called the number listed at the bottom of the story.
The children, as Pam learned during the screening process, had experienced a great deal of trauma. Their late parents struggled with addiction and the family often lived in homeless encampments. Food was scarce.
“It was easy to connect with the little ones. They were just desperately craving permanency,” Pam revealed. The older two were a little trickier.
“I think they didn’t quite trust that we were real. Like maybe we were going to go away,” Pam said. “I think it’s so hard to trust when so much has been taken from your life. Ruby didn’t know how to be a kid. She had to be a mother figure at a very young age.”
For the first six months, the kids struggled with sleep. There were frequent nightmares.
“One night, my then-7-year-old came into our room,” Pam recalled. “I asked her, ‘Did you have a bad dream?’ And she replied, ‘No, I just wanted to make sure that you were still here.”
“They’ve given us a second chance at parenting, we’ve given them a second Mom and Dad,” Pam wrote. “They are our Second Chance 7.”
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