Jesse Metcalfe: There’s no perfect relationship

Jesse Metcalfe

Jesse Metcalfe admits he didn’t fall for his girlfriend at first glance.

The Dallas actor has been dating longtime friend Cara Santana for five years.

Risking sounding less than passionate about their romance, he confessed it took them a while to fall in love.

“[I] wouldn’t say it was love at first sight,” Jesse told YourTango. “It was more of a slow burn, which I think is a better start for a relationship. I think if it comes on fast and furious, it generally fizzles out just as fast. We were slow and steady.”

Jesse is thankful their relationship unfolded over time. But he admitted their bond has its ups and downs like any other.

“There’s no perfect relationship,” he added.

“All relationships are work. If you put in the work, you’ll reap the rewards.”

The former Desperate Housewives star’s partner agreed that if took half a decade for them to even see each other in a romantic way.

She listens to her mother when it comes to taking relationship advice.

“We took the time to get to know each other. We’ve known each other for like 10 years,” Cara admitted. She cited a bit of motherly advice.

“’It’s much better to understand than to be understood,’” she said is a phrase she heeds often.

Cara said it also helps the couple comes to terms with the fact that they have completely different ideas about what constitutes romance.

While Jesse is more likely to flash the cash, Cara loves being tactile with her man.

“I bought her a leather jacket,” Jesse told the website when answering what they do to express their feelings for each other.

“I massaged his back,” Cara added.

Prior to his latest romance, Jesse was dating singer Nadine Coyle from pop band Girls Aloud.

He reportedly asked Cara to marry him last January. The couple were coy when asked whether there was a date in place for their nuptials.

“I think we’re gonna sidestep that question!” Jesse exclaimed.

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